Should dealing damage with Move always cause conflict?

[Ebocco 7]

So I've been in this "discussion" with someone about whether using Move specifically with the control upgrade to do damage is automatic conflict or not.  I say it isn't automatic conflict, because I'm thinking of an example situation where someone attacks you, and you defend yourself using what you can in order to deter or otherwise stop the attacker from harming you or others. The person arguing against is using Yoda's quote about never using the force for attack, so therefor using Move to cause damage is automatic conflict, no matter the purpose. I can think of many situations where using Move to deal damage would definitely cause conflict, but I can also think of many where it wouldn't make sense. This person also thinks that using the force to attack droids can never cause conflict because they aren't alive, which I also disagree with. I don't think so many situations are binary, whereas this other person does. I'm interested to hear other opinions on this. Thank you in advance.