Only two of us DM and we do....everything here.
But I do take issue with just the ....video gamey obtain quest...fight baddies...complete quest stuff. I don't find that fun. I was more reffering to people that aren't interested in anything other than...erm..winning? Like they get upset at things that don't fit in with their plans for the direction they had the person growing in I guess.
We treat the RP table as a real working universe and try, where possible, to add even more detail to the setting so that it feels like something you'd encounter in reality. (with space wizards)
I tried, long before I knew this existed, to RP on SWTOR and everyone was RPIng as Darth or Master this. Everyone had already their own Fleet and was super important and pals with main character x-y and It baffled me how many people came onto a game where thousands of people were playing and expected to be playing as integral pieces of the organism. Back in line with your post earlier everyone wants to play that general with the fleet but they don't want to do the hard graft of working through the ranks of figuring out resource allocation and eventually getting trusted with the responsibility of a large group of vessels that represent a giant investment from their nations. Just before I stopped playing a character just claimed outright that he had a brand new fleet gifted him directly from Darth Marr. I asked if he'd done anything with his guild to substantiate that claim..some background RP to help flesh the story out of how he got this incredible responsibility. He just told me OOC that him and a couple others felt like he deserved it. I get that...I just don't want to be part of it. So I left. Much as now I would really struggle with someone who isn't willing to go through the hard bits to get to the cool. THat, to me, makes it cooler. Without it I feel it's sad and hollow.