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    hurricanemaaynan reacted to Kdubb in If the Meta in your region is boring, I'm sorry. But PLEAAAASE- don't succumb to the pressure.   
    Watched some great X-wing streams today. A couple had awesome, non-typical lists take the top spot. This is exactly what we want from this game.
     
    Yet, while these regionals gave hope for the diversity of the game, another regional had... 3 lists in the top 4 as mirrors...
     
     
    All I want to say is, that if you don't like seeing this game devolve in to Palp Aces vs Uboats vs Imp Aholes, please be the difference you want to see. It's been proven that these are not the only lists that can win at the top level.
     
    Be that guy that brings munitions BOSSK and wins. Be that guy that brings an Alpha Interceptor and wins. Be that guy that brings Gemmer Sojan and wins. Be the.. Heck, I don't know! The guy that takes the Tie Punisher and wins, or Mindlinked Talonbane, Guri and Palob and wins.
     
    You are a CREATIVE, INTELLIGENT, HUMAN BEING. I promise you, even if you don't win, there is a lot of enjoyment to be had in competing with a list you came up with, even if you don't win. Heck, if you're anything like me, you'll probably feel better losing with a list you came up with than winning with one you did not. If you want, you can even use popular lists as a sort of template if you don't trust your list building abilities or your ability to judge a lists capability against the meta. But for goodness sake, do something to make the list your own. 
     
    Now not everyone would feel I am being fair. Some people truly are hyper competitive to the point that a key creative aspect of the game, listbuilding, is unimportant to them so much so that they simply take what they believe from research to be the consensus best list available. To those people, if winning is that important to you, that is fine. Do what you need to do. But this post is more to those players that don't fall under this category who are still taking these types of lists. Please, don't succumb to the pressure! Don't take the easy way to wins! Fight to learn a deeper aspect of the game in list building! I promise you if you do, you will find a deeper appreciation for the game that you otherwise will never have found.
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    hurricanemaaynan got a reaction from Grayfax in Has anyone received replacement cluster mine tokens?   
    Hi! The regionals I helped organize this past weekend did not pass out the defective tokens. We were ordered my FFG to "destroy" them.
     
    Instead, we passed out slips of paper to collect the addresses of the top 16. The store will be receiving the replacement tokens, and we will be having to ship them out to the top 16 ourselves. However, we have not received the replacements yet. Some stores have, I've heard.
     
    I would reach out to the store you won them at, but they may not have a resolution for you just yet!
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    hurricanemaaynan got a reaction from Vorpal Sword in Has anyone received replacement cluster mine tokens?   
    Hi! The regionals I helped organize this past weekend did not pass out the defective tokens. We were ordered my FFG to "destroy" them.
     
    Instead, we passed out slips of paper to collect the addresses of the top 16. The store will be receiving the replacement tokens, and we will be having to ship them out to the top 16 ourselves. However, we have not received the replacements yet. Some stores have, I've heard.
     
    I would reach out to the store you won them at, but they may not have a resolution for you just yet!
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    hurricanemaaynan reacted to Vineheart01 in So my wife says to me today   
    if i had a girl that did that, i wouldnt even buy the ship. i'd vanish like i was going to and come back with however many flowers i could buy with it.
    Im used to finding the exact opposite kind of girl. The ones that flip out if you play games at all, not just put the game before them (which i understand THAT one)
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    hurricanemaaynan reacted to GoldLead3r in The reason Intentuonal draws are a complete and utter joke.   
    Wow.  I can't believe the comments in here blaming the players and the TOs.  The rules are so incredibly vague on the TO not allowing the draw that it's absurd to blame this person.  Making it even more absurd is the fact that it was ALREADY ALLOWED BY FFG at the Hoth Open.  It's ABUNDANTLY clear that this was exactly what the rule was implemented to allow: reserving your spot in the cut.  So we should very quickly stop talking about collusion, the matter is closed.
     
    And blaming the players?  Calling them cowards as someone did?  Seriously, wtf is that....
     
    I would like to see the rule rescinded.  But that's on FFG, end of story.
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    hurricanemaaynan got a reaction from Shaidown in Are We Part of the Problem?   
    Respectfully, I disagree.
     
    because I don't feel uncomfortable around men. I feel uncomfortable around men who gawk at my chest, who stare at my backside when I lean over a table to make an obstruction call, and I feel uncomfortable when someone tries to get me to show my geek ID cred.
     
    That's not on me to overcome.
     
    That isn't anyone trying to make me feel unwelcome. That's them making me feel uncomfortable.
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    hurricanemaaynan got a reaction from Shaidown in Are We Part of the Problem?   
    Easy way to address the issues: If you see something, say something. It doesn't happen in my local group, because we have a handful of women. But it happens at Store Champs and what not where non-local players come. So just keep an eye on it, and if you see it happening call the person out on it. Straight up. "That's a super jerk thing to say man, why would you say that?"
     
    It's easy to ignore a problem. I wish I could ignore it too. But I can't.
     
     
     
     
     
    This is such crap. Don't say things like this. You wouldn't love it. You wouldn't love someone making you feel unsafe because of the parts you were born with. This is part of the issue. People that think harassment is flattering.
     
    It's not. It's scary.
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    hurricanemaaynan reacted to PenguinBonaparte in Are We Part of the Problem?   
    I work every year at a summer program where we're all charged with stepping up to make the community the best we can. When someone says something demeaning people don't just let it go, but ask what that person meant by it, whether they thought about how others might react. Most of the time, the kids haven't even thought through why they're saying what they're saying. Few people really intend to hurt others.
     
    As an instructor you can see how the kid who might be struggling with his sexuality, someone who's poor, someone who's from some different background takes in those messages about who matters and who doesn't, watch them conclude they won't be treated with respect or kindness and withdraw. Usualy the dominant group doesn't even notice who might be paying attention and learning from their behavior, and they don't usually don't have any bad intent either. I've seen countless times where these things were pointed out and the kids reached out and made a huge difference.
     
    This **** doesn't have to be negative. There doesn't have to be shame, self-hatred, and misery. Conversations like this can be a chance to make things better for ourselves and others, if only as individuals we can realize it's not just about us. Why don't we instead take our first steps into a larger world?
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    hurricanemaaynan reacted to Princezilla in Are We Part of the Problem?   
    Indeed, skepticism has its place but it should never be your first reaction when someone says they need help.
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    hurricanemaaynan got a reaction from librerian samae in Are We Part of the Problem?   
    Thank you for your story. It's sad to hear from other sides of the coin the way the system works against us. A system ran by humans will have human mistakes - including judgements and prejudices. Maybe one day we will overcome them. 
     
    And thanks for the compliment. I have tried to keep a level head. It hasn't been easy.
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    hurricanemaaynan got a reaction from Grayfax in Are We Part of the Problem?   
    Thank you for your story. It's sad to hear from other sides of the coin the way the system works against us. A system ran by humans will have human mistakes - including judgements and prejudices. Maybe one day we will overcome them. 
     
    And thanks for the compliment. I have tried to keep a level head. It hasn't been easy.
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    hurricanemaaynan reacted to FSD in Are We Part of the Problem?   
    No harm, no foul.  We're actually on the same page I think. 
     
    As was stated earlier(possibly by you?), it costs me nothing to empathize when someone's been wronged, regardless of the truth of the matter (again, not talking about you specifically; talking in more broad terms).  At the end of the day, if someone lies to me and I give them my sympathy, I'm still no less off than when I started the day.
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    hurricanemaaynan got a reaction from darthlurker in Are We Part of the Problem?   
    For what it's worth, the awful things that have happened to me have happened by men of all nationalities - not just white men.
     
    But it is interesting that most men in gaming like to pretend because it doesn't happen to them, it doesn't happen. It's much easier to cry foul than to take an introspective look at the community you are a part of and realize that, holy crap, my friends can be complete jerks to women.
     
    But then again, not everyone would find the things I described up there as being a jerk. So you know... Can't fix a problem people think isn't a problem.
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    hurricanemaaynan got a reaction from librerian samae in Are We Part of the Problem?   
    Hi Baaa,
     
    I wasn't planning on jumping back in, but... I felt compelled with this to say this.
     
    I have received 4 PMs from lurkers to this thread thanking me, saying I opened their eyes to some things they have done that they didn't realize how it effected people, and that they appreciated the insight. My own fiancé related to me a story last night about how he was a jerk to a girl in a pokemon hat (challenging her geek cred) and he didn't realize until he met me and listened to me talk how extremely crappy that was. So I mean, I don't think I can change the world, but I think if maybe I can open the eyes of one or two people I've made the world a better place, ya know?
     
    As for the police thing I'll just say this...
    I tried.
     
    Some of our police have similar attitudes to posters in this thread.
     
    So I resign myself to maybe trying to open the eyes of one or two people whenever it seems possible to.
     
    That's all.
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    hurricanemaaynan got a reaction from VaynMaanen in Are We Part of the Problem?   
    Hi Baaa,
     
    I wasn't planning on jumping back in, but... I felt compelled with this to say this.
     
    I have received 4 PMs from lurkers to this thread thanking me, saying I opened their eyes to some things they have done that they didn't realize how it effected people, and that they appreciated the insight. My own fiancé related to me a story last night about how he was a jerk to a girl in a pokemon hat (challenging her geek cred) and he didn't realize until he met me and listened to me talk how extremely crappy that was. So I mean, I don't think I can change the world, but I think if maybe I can open the eyes of one or two people I've made the world a better place, ya know?
     
    As for the police thing I'll just say this...
    I tried.
     
    Some of our police have similar attitudes to posters in this thread.
     
    So I resign myself to maybe trying to open the eyes of one or two people whenever it seems possible to.
     
    That's all.
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    hurricanemaaynan got a reaction from Simonsays3 in Are We Part of the Problem?   
    I'll dissect this a bit. Sorry I misspelled your name.
     
    First, I do not have anything against white men. I'm white. My whole family is white. Nothing against white people. So I'm not following a narrative. In fact, I'm marrying a Hispanic man and my assault was committed by a Hispanic man. SO. With that said.
     
    A shocking number of police have a similar outlook that many do in this thread and this world - that if she was dressed indecently, if she was drinking, if she invited him up to her room, she was, on some level, asking for it. So sometimes when you're hurt, confused, and downtrodden, and you go to the people who you think can help you and you get levied with questions and accusations that this was in some way your fault... it is almost impossible to, in your brain, convince yourself it wasn't your fault. I still have trouble with it sometimes. I STILL sometimes think that, even though I was drugged (got the test to prove it), I was in the wrong.... Because I met a guy gaming, and invited him to play super smash brothers on N64 in my dorm room.
     
    I can't point you to a collection of police reports like mine, and I am so sorry for that. The fact of the matter is, that the vast majority of assaults are not reported because of fear. Fear of not being believed, fear of persecution, fear of backlash. In fact, the vast majority of victims don't report for fear of doing exactly what I'm doing it - explaining it to someone who does not believe it.
     
    I could point you to studies about how prevalent assault is. I could point you to studies about how underreported it is. I could point you to studies that show WHY it is so incredibly underreported. But you could find them yourself with an easy google search.
     
    An important thing to note - -you are not a court of law-. One of the things I've said so many times in this thread is it costs you nothing to believe a victim without having to see the same amount of physical evidence as a jury.
     
    I got my kit done once I woke up. The pictures, swabs, collections... all done.
     
     
    But I should -not- have to provide that to anyone to give my opinion on my opinion of assault and harassment in the gaming industry. I experienced it and gave examples of my experiences and said it would be a great thing to change.
     
    Never said it was an epidemic. Just shared my experiences and participated in a conversation. To a lot more scrutiny than most other posters.
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    hurricanemaaynan got a reaction from Simonsays3 in Are We Part of the Problem?   
    What kind of evidence would you like me to provide you of my assault, Hobojesus? I'm genuinely curious how and WHY I'm expected to provide evidence of such an intimate, shameful, and painful part of my life to someone on the internet, when I was just providing my point of view in a thread on a forum that requested it.
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    hurricanemaaynan got a reaction from Simonsays3 in Are We Part of the Problem?   
    Hi Baaa,
     
    I wasn't planning on jumping back in, but... I felt compelled with this to say this.
     
    I have received 4 PMs from lurkers to this thread thanking me, saying I opened their eyes to some things they have done that they didn't realize how it effected people, and that they appreciated the insight. My own fiancé related to me a story last night about how he was a jerk to a girl in a pokemon hat (challenging her geek cred) and he didn't realize until he met me and listened to me talk how extremely crappy that was. So I mean, I don't think I can change the world, but I think if maybe I can open the eyes of one or two people I've made the world a better place, ya know?
     
    As for the police thing I'll just say this...
    I tried.
     
    Some of our police have similar attitudes to posters in this thread.
     
    So I resign myself to maybe trying to open the eyes of one or two people whenever it seems possible to.
     
    That's all.
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    hurricanemaaynan got a reaction from Boba Rick in Are We Part of the Problem?   
    Hah, it's an interested thing. Eventually they will be alone with them. What you have to do is give them the tools to protect themselves. My mom taught me to always be the one driving, so I could escape. She taught me to always have someone who knew where I was. It helps, it does.
     
    Sometimes it's the monsters you know, and sometimes it's a fluke. You can do everything to mitigate but if someone wants to attack they will.
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    hurricanemaaynan got a reaction from Garian Dagarkin in Are We Part of the Problem?   
    Hah, it's an interested thing. Eventually they will be alone with them. What you have to do is give them the tools to protect themselves. My mom taught me to always be the one driving, so I could escape. She taught me to always have someone who knew where I was. It helps, it does.
     
    Sometimes it's the monsters you know, and sometimes it's a fluke. You can do everything to mitigate but if someone wants to attack they will.
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    hurricanemaaynan got a reaction from Garian Dagarkin in Are We Part of the Problem?   
    Agreed. In my first post I said it isn't just gaming, it's everywhere. It's an overall attitude that is had towards women.
     
     
    It happened and it's over. I can't change it. But what I can do is attempt to open some eyes, any chance I get.
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    hurricanemaaynan got a reaction from thatdave in Are We Part of the Problem?   
    I'll dissect this a bit. Sorry I misspelled your name.
     
    First, I do not have anything against white men. I'm white. My whole family is white. Nothing against white people. So I'm not following a narrative. In fact, I'm marrying a Hispanic man and my assault was committed by a Hispanic man. SO. With that said.
     
    A shocking number of police have a similar outlook that many do in this thread and this world - that if she was dressed indecently, if she was drinking, if she invited him up to her room, she was, on some level, asking for it. So sometimes when you're hurt, confused, and downtrodden, and you go to the people who you think can help you and you get levied with questions and accusations that this was in some way your fault... it is almost impossible to, in your brain, convince yourself it wasn't your fault. I still have trouble with it sometimes. I STILL sometimes think that, even though I was drugged (got the test to prove it), I was in the wrong.... Because I met a guy gaming, and invited him to play super smash brothers on N64 in my dorm room.
     
    I can't point you to a collection of police reports like mine, and I am so sorry for that. The fact of the matter is, that the vast majority of assaults are not reported because of fear. Fear of not being believed, fear of persecution, fear of backlash. In fact, the vast majority of victims don't report for fear of doing exactly what I'm doing it - explaining it to someone who does not believe it.
     
    I could point you to studies about how prevalent assault is. I could point you to studies about how underreported it is. I could point you to studies that show WHY it is so incredibly underreported. But you could find them yourself with an easy google search.
     
    An important thing to note - -you are not a court of law-. One of the things I've said so many times in this thread is it costs you nothing to believe a victim without having to see the same amount of physical evidence as a jury.
     
    I got my kit done once I woke up. The pictures, swabs, collections... all done.
     
     
    But I should -not- have to provide that to anyone to give my opinion on my opinion of assault and harassment in the gaming industry. I experienced it and gave examples of my experiences and said it would be a great thing to change.
     
    Never said it was an epidemic. Just shared my experiences and participated in a conversation. To a lot more scrutiny than most other posters.
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    hurricanemaaynan got a reaction from KommanderKeldoth in Are We Part of the Problem?   
    Well.
    Okay. I did not bring up gamer gate, someone else came into the thread, called it crap in a rant, and I react. Sorry about that, McFoy.
    To whoever said "the feminazi reported it" that's cool, but I didn't. As the only woman who's come forward in this thread that's such an awful way to talk.
    My eyes have been opened about how xwing community as a whole views women. Thanks for that, guys. I'm out.
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    hurricanemaaynan got a reaction from Garian Dagarkin in Are We Part of the Problem?   
    No problem for not quoting, I understand formatting can be weird on mobile.
     
    Maybe I didn't make a difference. That's okay. I was participating in a conversation and showing my side of the story. That's it. It's interesting to me that my side of things has gotten so much more scrutiny than all the others.
     
    I'm sorry you don't understand the complex psychological things one goes through after an assault, but, when you've just been violated in such an extreme way and you're talking to someone who's supposed to protect and help you, and they're hurling things at you saying you were at fault.. .you start to believe it. It takes a lot of therapy to overcome.
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    hurricanemaaynan got a reaction from Garian Dagarkin in Are We Part of the Problem?   
    I'll dissect this a bit. Sorry I misspelled your name.
     
    First, I do not have anything against white men. I'm white. My whole family is white. Nothing against white people. So I'm not following a narrative. In fact, I'm marrying a Hispanic man and my assault was committed by a Hispanic man. SO. With that said.
     
    A shocking number of police have a similar outlook that many do in this thread and this world - that if she was dressed indecently, if she was drinking, if she invited him up to her room, she was, on some level, asking for it. So sometimes when you're hurt, confused, and downtrodden, and you go to the people who you think can help you and you get levied with questions and accusations that this was in some way your fault... it is almost impossible to, in your brain, convince yourself it wasn't your fault. I still have trouble with it sometimes. I STILL sometimes think that, even though I was drugged (got the test to prove it), I was in the wrong.... Because I met a guy gaming, and invited him to play super smash brothers on N64 in my dorm room.
     
    I can't point you to a collection of police reports like mine, and I am so sorry for that. The fact of the matter is, that the vast majority of assaults are not reported because of fear. Fear of not being believed, fear of persecution, fear of backlash. In fact, the vast majority of victims don't report for fear of doing exactly what I'm doing it - explaining it to someone who does not believe it.
     
    I could point you to studies about how prevalent assault is. I could point you to studies about how underreported it is. I could point you to studies that show WHY it is so incredibly underreported. But you could find them yourself with an easy google search.
     
    An important thing to note - -you are not a court of law-. One of the things I've said so many times in this thread is it costs you nothing to believe a victim without having to see the same amount of physical evidence as a jury.
     
    I got my kit done once I woke up. The pictures, swabs, collections... all done.
     
     
    But I should -not- have to provide that to anyone to give my opinion on my opinion of assault and harassment in the gaming industry. I experienced it and gave examples of my experiences and said it would be a great thing to change.
     
    Never said it was an epidemic. Just shared my experiences and participated in a conversation. To a lot more scrutiny than most other posters.
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