You appear to be a little quick to judge there Maine, and I feel in my group's case, you may have done so unfairly.
First of all, I acknowledge the painting thing (hooefully) wasn't directed at me at all, so I'll not respond to that.
As far as the proxying thing and being elitist, one thing I didn't mention is our group is very open to loaning models to other players who wish to, "try before you buy" so they don't have to proxy, so don't point a finger my way as being an elitest jerk.
I'm pretty much stepping down as a PG for WM/Hordes and going to focus on their IK RPG and boardgames, as the core WM/Hordes players - including our other PG - have become my definition of elitest jerks (people who only play ******-lists, even against rookies), which have driven many of our players into only playing at home or when they know I'll be at the shop. Yesterday, I got only two games of DW in because I spent the majority of my time answering WM/Hordes Rules questions for players playing league games.
My stance of no proxies for sanctioned events is actually a rule in most games' Organized Play settings. And absent exigent circumstances (model dropped and shattered into pieces that morning type stuff) I enforce the company's rules. I also don't loan the same models more than 2-3 times, as I want the companies, who makes the games I like to play, to make money and succeed, so I can continue to get updated product, new models, and support. People who continually allow proxies hurt the industry as bad or worse than elitests due to lost sales.
It's a fine line IMO, and my conscience is clear. I take it from your strong feelings you've had bad experiences with people whom you define as elitist. I'm confident from your description, if you played in my group you wouldn't lump us in that category. I'm fairly confident you wouldn't drop Strombole and his group in there either, but I'll let him defend himself. *
Like I started off with, I feel you may have been quick to judge - justifiably probably upon your past experiences and a lack of us further delineating our take on the matter (certainly at least in my case), which I hope I have now clarified.
* Edit to add - Durn guy beat me to it, and more succinctly said the same durn thing. Durn Ninja!