However,....although I have to disagree with you both that the tokens are not like destination cards and could be open to all.
I think it would be more than fair to ask your cylon parter at the table, "If you had a choice which location on Galactica or Pegasus would you like to see damaged most?" It's vague, it's non-specific and it doesn't give away any information about what the revealing cylon has in his hand.
If the humans can interact and ask questions of each other then the cylons should too as long as it all happens at the table. You can't tell me that when it is gettiing harry for the humans at those late stages and the humans need to coordinate themselves you don't "advise" players to do other things than what they were going to do first or a player doesn't start doing the , "no don't xo apollo, go to the command launch 2 vipers let Apollo jump in one, use the cag then let him XO somebody else." If you are going to say that the cylons can't collude on something as simple as which location should I damage, as a cylon I would say you cannot advise anybody on their turn, they have to do it all themselves.
fair is fair.