Still, you two should be having fun. We need more female players and that's hard if we view losing to them as a flaw instead of how the game is played. I'm not saying you are doing that intentionally or consciously. The problem is the phrasing you used makes it seem that way, and that can propogate those views in others, even if you don't really hold them yourself.
Be happy she won, vow to fight harder next time, and if you get defeated (or crushed) you should laud her for her victory. That's something that makes a competitive game like this a good thing in a long term relationship.
I think I should probably clarify a few things. Thanks for mentioning this.
I was pretty thrilled with the first game I mentioned. It was a REALLY great game ("I-Obviously-Don't-Have-Any-Idea-How-To-Use-The-Gunner-Card" not withstanding).
Part of the reason I had so much fun was BECAUSE she beat me. Being able to fly with her is a lot of fun.
The problem I have is ME. When I fail cause of my own stupid, I can't help but be irritated at myself.
I made the original post asking for help keeping myself from failing so hard, not so that I could beat my wife.
I also made the original post so that she could get some tips too...
My secret hope is that she will become as obsessed with this game as I am, and want a bazillion rebel ships, and make her own account and shtuff. I got really excited when she came up to me today, saying, "Oh there were some funny things in that post... and I have a few new ideas to beat you now."
Thanks for responding guys.