FFG and Nexus have to make the first move by releasing the FAQ that has been urgently requested by the gaming community for over a year and has been "under development" for more than 6 months.
BoardGameGeek forums (where much of the conversation on this game seems to take place rather than here, which seems odd to me) is loaded with suggestions, observations, ideas like the ones you call for. But the entire discussion is couched in a sense of uncertainty due to the many unanswered questions. The rules simply do not address too many game-shaping situations, and that leaves the players wondering if they are even playing correctly.
Add to that the overall concern that we are all "falling in love" with a game that will not be supported, expanded, promoted, etc. I'm an optimist, but you have to wonder why FFG and Nexus would leave so many open questions on the table so long. And, look at the FFG mini-site support page for BoN... see any videos, bonus scenarios, FAQs, news, or any of the other stuff the "supported" games have?
So, I agree with you 100%, the player community will need to step up and make this great game a shining star ... but first the companies themselves need to make the first move ... publish the FAQ (even in draft form), get some promotional and supporting materials out there, support conversations on the FFG board.